Saving A Relationship 3 Tips For Doing So

Whether you've recently broken up, or you're afraid you're on the brink of a breakup you can take heart, saving a relationship is possible. You can reignite the flame that the two of you once shared. It won't necessarily be easy or fast, but if you're committed to making it work there is hope.

I've compiled a list of some of the things you need to do to salvage and repair your relationship. Keep these tips in mind when you are analyzing your relationship:

1. Do you really want to stay in the relationship? I know this may sound like a dumb question but sometimes when we think we want to keep our relationship what we really mean is that we're afraid of having to find someone new, or starting over. If you're brutally honest with yourself you can determine if you really want to continue the relationship or if you're just scared of being on your own.

Another part of this question is to determine if your partner really wants to work on the relationship too. Even if you decide that your relationship is worth saving, that doesn't mean your partner shares your conviction or will be willing to invest the time and effort to work on your problems.

2. Honestly evaluate what went wrong in your relationship. Again, this will need to be done by both of you. This can be the hardest part, it's always easier to blame someone else for the problems but it's tougher to own up to your part in the break down of your relationship.

Before you can repair it you need to know not only what is broken but why it broke. The two of you may even want to visit a couples counselor to help you objectively work through this phase. Sometimes having an objective third party in the room can help you both stay calm and face things you may not have been willing or able to face on your own.

3. Try to remember what drew you to each other in the first place. If you've been in a relationship for a while you obviously loved and enjoyed each other. So often in a relationship what happens is that the 'stronger' one (or the most selfish one) controls the relationship. They become the one who tends to take more than they give. The other partner will take on the role of the giver. Over time the 'taker' will get bored because the fun loving person they fell in love with has become a doormat and the 'giver' will get sick of not getting their needs met often enough.

If your relationship has fallen into this trap you both need to take a step back and remember what attracted you to each other. This might be a good time to not only remember but to tell the other person. Remind them why you fell in love with them, and vice a versa.

Saving a relationship will take time, work, and commitment by both parties, but it can be done. If you think your relationship is worth saving and your partner thinks so too, than by all means, follow the tips above and you can salvage your relationship. THE MAGIC OF MAKING UP

Cher Lloyd sings With Ur Love on X Factor - The X

Cher Lloyd sings With Ur Love on X Factor - The X

Win Back Lost Love From Long Ago

If you want to win back lost love that is from a long time ago there may be an

uphill battle ahead for you. If you are like many, you have reached a point in
your life that you realize that things might have been better for you if you had
taken that other path. You thought the grass was greener on the other side and
then realized that it was an illusion. You realize that the love you had a long
time ago may be what you are missing. Here are some things to think about when
you want to win back lost love from long ago.

First, make sure that there is nothing in your life right now that may missing
out on. The mistake you may have made in the past was that you didn’t take
advantage of the opportunities that you had at that moment. Make sure that you
don’t make the same mistake again by missing out on something potentially good.
If you hate looking back and thinking what you may have missed out on now, try
to prevent it from happening again. It’s better having love now and to not have
to try and win back lost love later because you were too blind.

Second, realize that they may have moved on. Just because you are discontent
with your present and are longing for what could have been with the love from
long ago doesn’t mean that they are. You could cause yourself and them more
harm than good. If they are happy and content, let them be. If they have moved
on, it’s a good sign that you should and not be concerned with winning back
lost love.

Third, understand that people change over time. Things may have happened in
both of your lives that may have made you very different people. Don’t do
this to try and relive what once was. Try to win back lost love because you
believe that your future will be better than your present and even your past
with this person.

Fourth, start off slowly. If they aren’t expecting you to come calling and
all of the sudden you are there constantly it may smell of desperation. You
may be desperate and be somewhat obsessed about them but don’t let them know.
Take your time and don’t let them know how badly you want them back, at least
not for a while. Take the time to get to know them again and for them to get
to know you.

Lastly, think forward, not backward. What matters now is moving forward.
You can’t relive the past but you can make a future with this person. As
much as you may want to go back in time, you can’t. You lost it because
one or both of you didn’t make the most of chances you were given and
you are doomed to repeat it if you don’t take advantage of today. If you
have a chance to start this love over or win back lost love,
make the most of the moment.
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